Imagine this: Your 4-year-old is throwing a tantrum… What are the odds in the middle of their meltdown they’ll pause and think, “Hm, last time I was screaming and crying, I didn’t get to have dessert. I think I’ll calm down and go apologize to my parents”? Not going to happen! In moments like this, your kid is experiencing a feeling they don’t yet know how to manage. Our job is to help our kids build the skills they’re missing, not punish them for not yet having those skills. When you’re dealing