“She needs to own her part.” You say it over and over. And maybe you’re right. Maybe she is cold. Maybe she is critical. Maybe she is distant and bitter. But the real question is: What are you doing while you wait? Because if you’re waiting for her to go first… You’re not leading. You’re negotiating. That’s not strength. That’s pride in disguise—wrapped in false fairness. You say: “I’ve apologized.” “I’ve done my part.” But you’re still keeping score. Waiting for her turn. As if healing is some

You thought the problem was her. Her attitude. Her reactions. Her silence. You were the provider. You showed up. You gave. You built. So how could you be the problem, right? But underneath the vacations, the gifts, the “I’m doing everything I can”… You were starving for something she could never give you. Validation. Peace. Worth. You didn’t want a wife—you wanted a mirror. Someone to reflect back the man you needed to believe you were. And when she couldn’t… You punished her for it. With anger.

What if your deepest need… is really just your oldest wound trying to get healed? You think you need to be admired. You think you need to be respected. You think you need space, peace, success, certainty. But what if those “needs” are just echoes of something deeper? You were abandoned—so now you crave to be chosen. You were shamed—so now you need constant validation. You were controlled—so now you chase rebellion and call it freedom. You were never affirmed—so now you chase admiration and call

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